Learn from your previous mistakes 体验错误，感悟生活
The well-known definition of insanity is doing the same thing in the same way and expecting different results. But repeating a failure is not only a sign of insanity, it is a refusal to admit you may not be perfect. To have the emotional maturity to first admit you made a mistake, then to determine what the mistake was and thirdly to take steps to correct that mistake for the next time shows that you’ve grown beyond infancy. One final step in learning from your previous mistakes is realizing that there may not be any way to correct the mistake you’ve made and to be able to move beyond it.There are at least four different types of mistakes and what you learn from them may depend on your maturity as well as the type of mistake you made.
The first type of mistake is the dumb mistake. This is the mistake of tripping on the sidewalk or touching wet paint. This is the child running from a promised spanking and hiding under the bed. About the only lessons which can be learned from a dumb mistake is that it was dumb to do it, but that doesn’t mean it will never happen again or that you’ve learned anything from the mistake. After all, there will always be rough spots on the sidewalk and we always have that uncontrollable urge to see if the “wet paint” sign is right.
Mistake number two is the simple mistake. This is the mistake where you call your wife by your secretary’s name, or you forget to mail the letter with the rent check. If something like this happens regularly, or if it becomes an issue between yourself and your spouse, you probably need to find a way to remember errands and names. If it’s simply a lack of focus, it’s probably best not to stress out about it. You can learn from this type of mistake that you can be better organized or that you may need to learn some memory techniques.
The third type of mistake is a little more serious. This is the dumb mistake or the simple mistake repeated over and over with either no understanding that it is a mistake, or no understanding of how to change and learn from the mistake so as to get different results the next time. This kind of mistake is known as the serious mistake. This mistake is one that could and should result in a change of thinking. If you lose your job because you are habitually late for work, you can refuse to accept the responsibility for the mistake and refuse to change, or you can continue to be the emotionally immature child who can’t learn from a mistake because they don’t understand that a mistake has been made. Either that or they blame the boss for firing them.
The fourth type of mistake is the most interesting, and also the one from you have the most opportunity to learn. This is the complex mistake. It may be the mistake that was unavoidable given all the sequence of events which led up to the error. This is where the learning comes in. By analyzing the causes, timing, personalities and nature of the mistake, you may recognize that the mistake was simply unavoidable, but you might also be able to use that information to react differently during the process and thereby reach a different result.
以下为汉语译文，仅供参考。
体验错误，感悟成长
有一则关于愚蠢的著名定义：那就是用同样的方法去做同样的事情，并且希望得到不同的结果。然而重复错误不仅仅是一种愚蠢的表现，也是一个人拒绝承认自己不完美的体现。为了证明自己在思想上的成熟，首先应该承认自己的确是犯了错误，接着去明确自己的错误，从而进一步地去改正这个错误，这样便能说明自己已经长大了。懂得在错误中学习，虽然这样并不能弥补已经犯下的错误，但你的收获远远不止这些。
以下至少有四种错误类型，你能从中领悟到什么,可能取决于你的成熟度以及所犯错误的类型。
第一类是沉默型错误。比如在人行路上跌倒或者触碰到未干的油画一样。就好比是为了逃避责罚而躲在床底下的孩子。在沉默型错误中，唯一能学到就是意识到这么做是一种愚蠢的行为，但这并不意味着以后就不会发生类似的事件或者说你从中学到了点什么。毕竟，在人行道上总会有一些崎岖不平的地方，也总会发生一些我们无法控制的紧急情况，以至于没有注意到油画是湿的。
第二类是简单型错误。比如把妻子的名字错叫成秘书的名字，或者是在寄信时忘了检查信封的封口。如果经常发生这样的错误，或者这种错误已成为了你和爱人之间的问题，那么你可能有必要去想一个办法来记住某些事件和名字。如果只是由于缺乏注意力，那以后一定要对这些事情加强注意力。你能够从这种错误类型中认识到，你可以把事情做得更好，或者去学习一些记忆方法。
第三类是比较严重的错误类型。这种错误类型是指犯沉默型错误或者简单型错误的反复出现，或者根本没有意识到那是一个错误，或者不知道怎样去做才能得到不同的结果。这种错误是最严重的错误。这种错误可能会导致思想的变化。有的人因为经常迟到而被老板炒鱿鱼，但却并不认为那是自己的错误，从而拒绝改正错误。或者就像一个不成熟的孩子，变得很幼稚，不懂得从错误中学习，因为他们并没有意识到自己犯了错。或者他们也会抱怨老板把自己解雇。
第四类错误是最有趣的一种错误，也是最有机会学到东西的一种错误类型。这是一种综合错误类型。这种错误可能是由一系列的事件而导致。这样就可以从错误中学习到许多。也许通过分析错误的原因，时间，性格以及错误本身，你会发现这个错误是不可避免的，但是通过这种分析过程，你会有更好的表现，从而得到一个完全不同的结果。
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