(1)_________________________. Most parents are well meaning,but some of them aren’t very helpful with the problems their sons and daughters have in adjusting to college,and a few of them seem to go out of their way to add to their children’s difficulties. For one thing, parents are often not aware of the kinds of problems their children face.They don’t realize that the competition is keener,that the required standards of work are higher,(2)_________________________. Accustomed to seeing A’s and B’s on high school report cards,they may be upset when their children’s first semester college grades are below that level. At their kindest, they may gently inquire why John or Mary isn’t doing better,whether he or she is trying as hard as he or she should,and so on. At their worst, they may threaten to take their children out of college, or cut off funds.(3)_________________________.In their involvement and identification with their children,they forget that everyone is different and that each person must develop in his or her own way.They forget that their children, who are now young adults,must be the ones responsible for what they do and what they are.