The relationship between a man and his son can be complex. There is a time when the son wants to grow into his own man – something described often in literature. Author Tom Wolfe wrote about a father and son relationship in his 1987 book, "The Bonfire of the Vanities." "Sherman made the terrible discovery that men make about their fathers sooner or later... that the man before him was not an aging father but a boy, a boy much like himself, a boy who grew up and had a child of his own and, as best he could, out of a sense of duty and, perhaps love, adopted a role called Being a Father."_____________________________一个男人和儿子之间的关系可能会是复杂的. 孩子的成长过程中有一段时间想成他们期望的样子--在文学作品中经常有这样的说法.作家汤姆`沃尔夫在他1987年写的<虚荣的篝火>一书中,谈到了一对父子关系. "谢尔曼忽然意识到男人早晚会成为他们的父亲那样.他面前的这个男人不再是一位年迈的父亲,而更像他自己.他会长大,会有自己的孩子.出于责任尽其所能,可能是爱,适应了父亲这样一个角色."____________________________