呆了

Before he left he begged the emperor for a favor--to erect a chastity archway in honor of his widowed mother.
临行前，他恳求皇帝赐给他守寡的母亲一个贞节牌坊。
It rains when Heaven deems fit, mother remarries when she wants to.
天要下雨娘要嫁人。