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THE annual ritual of the New Year’s resolution — I’ll lose 10 pounds, get my finances in order, be more patient with my family, feel more grateful — misses the point. We try to steel our wills to do what we already know we should be doing. Kick-in-the-pants reminders, however stern, are missed opportunities for genuine self-renewal. (Not to mention that the shelf life of any motivational juice we generate in January tends to expire in February.)
制定新年规划这个一年一度的常规动作——我要减重10磅,要解决财务问题,要更耐心地对待家人,要更知道感恩——总是放错重点。我们竭力强化意志,去做已经意识到自己该做的那些事情。但好似“催命符”的备忘录不管多严苛,都无法激励人们进行真正的自我更新。(更别提1月份才成形的这些宏图大志是多么容易过期,2月份一到,它们往往就宣告破产。)
The turning over of a new year is an opportunity to create ourselves anew. How? The key, I suggest, is in shifting our understanding of the choices we make. For many people, the most important choices in life are sources of agony, dread, paralysis — even depression or suicide. It doesn’t have to be like this.
新年来临之际是重新塑造自我的良机。如何塑造呢?我认为,关键在于换个角度来理解我们所做的选择。对很多人而言,生命中最重要的一些选择是痛苦、恐惧、无力的根源,甚至会让人产生抑郁和自杀倾向。但事情并不一定非是如此不可。
A hypothetical example: Eve works as a textbook editor at a Boston publishing house and was approached by a small but prestigious imprint on the West Coast that was looking for a fiction editor. The job would be a big promotion, with a significant raise, and Eve had always wanted to work in fiction.
比方说,伊芙是波士顿某出版社的教科书编辑,西海岸一家正在寻找小说编辑的出版公司找到了她。该公司规模虽小,但却久负盛名。接受这份工作,伊芙的职位会大大提升,薪水会大幅提高,而且她一直都想在小说领域发展。
But Eve is in crisis. Should she move her husband and young daughter from their cozy life in Boston, her home of 15 years, to the wilds of California? If she stays, will she be forsaking the opportunity of a lifetime? If she moves, will her new boss turn out to be a jerk? Will her child be bullied at school? What if her husband can’t find a good job? Will the family quarrel, the marriage dissolve, her boss fire her for being incompetent, and she and her child end up on food stamps in a homeless shelter?
但伊芙却面临着艰难的抉择。她已经在波士顿生活了15年,该让丈夫和年幼的女儿抛开这里的惬意生活,与她一起搬走吗?如果选择留在波士顿,她能够割舍一生中难得的机遇吗?如果选择搬去西海岸,要是发现新老板是个混球可怎么办?要是她的孩子在学校挨欺负可怎么办?要是她丈夫找不到好工作可怎么办?家里是否会争吵不断,婚姻是否会解体,老板是否会因为她无法胜任工作而炒她鱿鱼,她和孩子是否会落得在收容所靠食品券度日的田地?
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